5. Speak with love
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ
--Love has the best for the other person in mind, the best is growth into Christ.
Speaking—being or walking, holding or following, more than just words according to the Greek. Speaking is based on previous verse.
Truth/Love—truth is never sacrificed to love. Love rejoices in truth.
1 John 3:16-18
Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.17 But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?18 My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
Word and tongue—empty profession, vocabulary that replaces action.
If you don’t love others, God’s love is not in you. You don’t get the Gospel as this is what the Gospel is.
Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him.
5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit.
Don’t imitate his folly, don’t stoop to his level. But you may have to address his foolishness with stern rebuke for his help or protection.
--We think love means never rebuking
1 Peter 2:15-17—passage about submitting to authority
For so is the will of God, that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men:16 As free, and not using your liberty for a cloke of maliciousness, but as the servants of God.17 Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.
Well doing—doing good, doing what profits someone else. Usually we double-down on being a dork! Put to silence—muzzle, gag, as you’d do to an animal, a strong word, shut up, make speechless. Ignorance—not a simplicity, but a willing ignorance.
Honour—put a high value on, revere, venerate.