3. Don’t seek to win; seek to edify
1 Corinthians 11:16-19—end of head covering passage:
But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
17 Now in this that I declare unto you I praise you not, that ye come together not for the better, but for the worse.18 For first of all, when ye come together in the church, I hear that there be divisions among you; and I partly believe it.19 For there must be also heresies among you, that they which are approved may be made manifest among you.
Contentious—fond of strife, wanting to fight. Do things that make for peace, so if people want to fight about a non-essential matter, then let it go. Declare—charge, command, how you do the Lord’s Supper is not non-essential. This is a command to be obeyed.
Partly believe—I don’t believe everything I’m hearing, but I know enough to believe some of it! Heresies—parties, disunion, groups forming over disagreements. Approved—pleasing, acceptable. Let people believe their goofy stuff and then watch the fruit.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.31 Let all bitterness [sharpness, ready to be offended and react], and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
Corrupt—insipid, rotten, worthless, not edifying. Edifying—edify where it is needed, to meet a need, right word for right season. Not vague generalities. Does not aggravate weakness, but builds it. Grieve—cause to mourn, worthless conversation makes the Spirit uneasy, sorrowful.Evil speaking—slander, hurtful, injurious.
1 Timothy 1:3-7—love is a deal/so is true teaching
As I besought thee to abide still at Ephesus, when I went into Macedonia, that thou mightest charge some that they teach no other doctrine,4 Neither give heed to fables and endless genealogies, which minister questions, rather than godly edifying which is in faith: so do.
5 Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned:6 From which some having swerved have turned aside unto vain jangling;7 Desiring to be teachers of the law; understanding neither what they say, nor whereof they affirm.
No other doctrine—than what Paul and the apostles taught. Don’t add or subtract. Fables and endless genealogies—Rumors, unfounded reports. Pride in lineage, listen to family or tradition more than God. Questions—inquiries, debates, fixation on matters of controversy that have no bearing on practical life. Edifying—not usual word, dispensation, stewardship, economy, order. Vain jangling—empty chatter, story telling, empty disputing.
Teachers who do not know their subject but rely upon arguing and lineage.