How to talk to People you Disagree With: Part One
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.2 The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.3 The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good.4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.
Aright—good, pleasing, well placed, brought forth at right time and place. Poureth out—continually, vehemently, to the point of disgust. Wholesome—curative, a medicine, heal. Breach—fracture, ruin, opposite of healing.
1. Make sure you need to talk. Many verses about being quiet.
Keep thy foot [hedge, guard, circumspect] when thou goest to the house of God, and be more ready to hear, than to give the sacrifice of fools: for they consider not that they do evil. 2 Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few. 3 For a dream cometh through the multitude of business; and a fool's voice is known by multitude of words.
Hear—listen to, obey. It’s not about feeling good you showed up or to do empty headed ritual ceremonies. Rash—hurried, hasty, terrified, without consideration, as opposed to “keep thy foot.” God is in heaven—so consider your words, weigh them carefully you creature of earth.
In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.20 The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.
Many words increase your odds of sinning. Out of the abundance of the heart . . . More words more chance for lies, gossip, hurtful, unedifying things to be said.
Proverbs 21:23--Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
Troubles—affliction, tribulation, tight spots.
Romans 3:13-14, 19
Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps is under their lips:14 Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness
Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law: that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God.
Throat sepulcher—emitting the stench of an open grave, or a pit to fall into and die. Poison—instead of speaking what heals, it poisons people. Stopped—fenced up, stopped, a cork shall be put in it! All defense and justifications will cease at that moment.